Beyond the steps of brushing teeth and tucking in, bedtime is a unique moment to foster a deeper bond and sense of security, which can lead to better sleep. In this blog post, I will share practical tips on how to connect with your child before bedtime and create a calm environment for restful sleep.

Creating a Calm Bedtime Environment

A serene bedtime environment sets the stage for meaningful connection. Consider soft, warm lighting, soothing colors, and calming bedtime rituals. Dim the lights an hour before bedtime to signal the transition from play to rest. Engage your child in choosing cozy pajamas or reading a calming bedtime story together.

Unplugging for Quality Time

Put away screens and your phone and focus on being present with your child. I try to not take my phone to my kid’s bedroom so there is no temptation to look at it or use it. If my kiddo asks to check something on my phone, I can’t because I don’t have it! Engage in conversation about their day, interests, and feelings. This dedicated time helps your child feel heard and valued. It fills their “cup” and will make it easier when it’s time to sleep.

Mindful Breathing and Relaxation Techniques

Introduce simple mindfulness practices to help your child wind down. Guided breathing exercises or progressive muscle relaxation can calm the mind and body. Join in too! Sharing that experience will promote relaxation and connection.

Incorporating Affectionate Rituals Physical

Physical touch is a powerful tool for connection. Incorporate affectionate rituals such as gentle massages, back rubs, or cuddling. These gestures release oxytocin, the “love hormone,” promoting feelings of security and comfort. Use this time to express love and reassurance.

Reflecting on Gratitude

Encourage your child to reflect on positive aspects of their day. Create a bedtime gratitude ritual where you both share something you’re grateful for. This practice cultivates a positive mindset and reinforces the bond between you and your child.

Embracing Silence and Stillness

In the rush of daily life, bedtime provides a unique opportunity for silence and stillness. Embrace moments of quiet contemplation with your child. This peaceful atmosphere encourages introspection and can become a cherished part of your bedtime routine.

My son tends to open up at bedtime once the lights are out and we’re quiet. He will start talking about things that happened, worries, etc. I learn more about him at bedtime than at any other time. And I really, really cherish these conversations.

By incorporating these mindful practices into your evening routine, you can foster connection, love, security, and peaceful sleep for both you and your child. Remember, it’s not just about putting them to bed – it’s about tucking in their hearts with your love and warmth.

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Having a relaxing bedtime routine is key for your child’s sleep. Creating the right bedtime routine is one of the first things I focus on with my clients.

Research shows that kiddos who have a consistent bedtime routine fall asleep faster, have less night wakings and sleep better overall. Sounds good, right?! So let’s talk about how you create a good bedtime routine for your child!

A bedtime routine is a sequence of activities that we do every night before bedtime. Pick a few relaxing activities you are willing to do every night, and do them in the same order every night, in the room where your kiddo sleep.

I encourage families to start a bedtime routine when baby is 6- 8 weeks old. Your baby will soon learn to recognize this “sequence” and understand that sleep comes at the end. It will become an important cue to help them be more ready for sleep.

Over time, your child’s bedtime routine will evolve and change, but you will want to continue to have a predictable routine before bed. Even adults have bedtime routines – think about what you do before you go to sleep – I bet you have your own rituals!

The bedtime routine is a time to relax, connect and wind down. There are 3 parts to a successful bedtime routine:

PREP

Start your bedtime routine with the things you need to do to get ready: diaper change, lotion, brush teeth, potty, pajamas. If there’s something your kiddo dislikes, try to do it first so it’s out of the way and we can enjoy the rest of the routine. (we don’t want them to get all mellow and then have to stop to do something they dislike!).

WIND DOWN

Once kiddo is ready, it’s time to wind down in the bedroom and dim the light. The bedtime routine is NOT the time for rough plays or pillow fight (do those earlier in the day!). Pick 1-2 things relaxing things that your kiddo enjoys. Here are some ideas:

• Read books
• Massage
• Sing songs
• Snuggle
• Do some yoga together
• Calm play
• Listen to soft music or audio stories
• Talk about your days

Pick things that your kiddo enjoys. That means that if your child really is not into books right now, don’t do a book at bedtime. Try books at different times of the day, and pick something they enjoy at bedtime.

CONNECT

The last component of the routine is to connect with your child. Since we are about to be asleep/apart for many hours, make sure their “cup is full” before we say good night. I know it can be hard – by the time bedtime rolls around I am tired myself and/or I am thinking about all the things I need to do once my kiddo’s bedtime is over!  But this is an important part of the day for kiddos. Be fully present and engaged: it will absolutely pay off once it’s time to say good night because they will have all they need for the night.

Now that you know the 3 elements that makes a bedtime routine effective, we need to talk about one more thing: how long should a bedtime routine be?  Well, not that long. Your bedtime routine can be 20-30 min from beginning to end. If your routine is much longer, you can certainly shorten it. Decide what you want to keep/include during the routine and then be very consistent with your new routine. And get ready to dim the light, wind down and enjoy a short and sweet bedtime routine with your kiddo!

If you have any questions about your child’s sleep and would like more support, head over HERE to learn more about how we can work together to improve sleep or contact me.

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At what time do we start the do routine?

We talked about the routine lasting 20-30 min. Think about when your kiddo usually falls asleep and start the bedtime routine 20-30 min earlier.  We start the routine so that they are ready to sleep by the end of the routine. In other words, we don’t wait for your kiddo to look really tired to start the routine.

Where do we do the routine?

Do the routine in the room where the child sleeps. Your routine may start in the bathroom, but move to the bedroom as early as possible in the routine.

Do I need to do bath every night?

You don’t have to include a bath as part of your routine. But many families start their routine with a bath because they have found that it helps their child goes to sleep. And there’s a good reason for that. During a bath, our body temperature slightly increases. Then when we get out of the bath, our temperature decreases. And that slight decrease in temperature is exactly what happens to our body when we are about to fall asleep. So when we come out of a bath with an elevated temperature, we initiate that decrease in temperature (by coming out of the bath), which can help your kiddo feel sleepy.

Having said that, taking a bath is not helpful for every kiddo. For some, it’s extremely stimulating and it makes it harder for them to fall asleep afterwards. For other kids with skin issues, being in the water every night may cause some issues.   So if taking a bath helps your kiddo go to sleep, then keep it in your routine. And if it’s not beneficial, then skip it!

Do I need to read the same books every night?

When you first introduce the routine, read the same book(s) every night for a few nights. Once the routine is established, you can start to rotate books and read different ones every night. Another variation if you read multiple books is to finish with the same book. Let’s say you read 3 short books at bedtime. You can change the first 2 and always read the same third/last book.

Build some time to talk at bedtime (once your child can talk!)

If your child is older, you can finish your routine with turning off the light and talking for a few minutes. Have a consistent “format” for that time: you can ask them the same 3 questions every night, or you can tell them 3 things you noticed about them today. You could both share your rose (something you enjoyed during the day), thorn (something that was hard or you did not like) and bud (something you are looking forward to for tomorrow) for the day. Make sure to share yours too! This is when I get the “juiciest” details about my kids. They are relaxed in bed and have our attention and open up!

If you have any questions about your child’s sleep and would like more support, head over HERE to learn more about how we can work together to improve sleep or contact me.

You can also join my free private Facebook group for sleep support.

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